Encouraging words and thoughts toward making the rest of your life the best of your life
Author: Diane Patterson
I am 54 years-old and the mother of three grown children. In the last five years, I left a profession I was in for over 20 years, I moved to a new city, re-married, went back to school to discover a new profession, and became a grandma for the first time. I also am pursuing my passion for writing. I am writing a children's picture book and I started my first blog ever.
For years I was afraid of change but I now I embrace it
I check my shopping list twice to make sure I haven’t forgotten anything yet I know I probably have. I check the mail, water the plants, and make sure everything is organized and ready to be put in the car in the morning. While I am busily filling my day with necessary activities, I feel a certain giddy feeling in my whole body. I want today to be tomorrow now but I know if it was , I wouldn’t be ready. Anticipation overwhelms me.
This is how I feel every time my husband and I go on vacation. I wonder what we will experience, what we will see, the beauty we will “feel” and who we will meet along the way to wherever we have as our planned yet “unplanned” destination. One of the most exciting aspects of our vacations is that we never have a definite destination in mind. Yes, we have a general direction but many times along our journey the destination changes. We have a saying, ” The Journey is the Destination” so no matter where we end up, the journey together was the real purpose for the destination.
I have decided that I want to have this feeling everyday. I want to wake up every day with the anticipation of what I will learn, what I will see, what will feel and who I will meet that day. I think that if I approached everyday with anticipation towards my day’s journey , I can find joy even in the changes of direction knowing that it is the journey not the destination that counts. Embrass everyday with anticipation.
My husband and I spent the day with our grown children , their significant others , and our daughter-in-laws family. I looked at this diverse group of people, in both culture and personality, and I can’t help but smile. I feel so blessed. These people do not need a special occasion to get together. These people really like each other. There is always a greeting hug and a good-bye hug and lots of smiles in-between. There isn’t any fighting, arguing, or putting each other down behind ones back or in the face. I have been told that our family is unique. That thought makes me sad. I know families who haven’t talked for years. What happen to get these people to the point where those they should be the closest to become so far away, even if they live just down the street.? They allow petty differences to tear their family apart. I realize that sometimes there are people who have caused a lot of pain in a family and setting boundaries with those people is necessary. I’m talking about families who over the years grow further and further apart until they are strangers. Over the years, the next generation repeats the cycle of disconnection without even knowing why.
If you are a part of a family where there are no greeting hugs and getting together is like a battlefield, break the cycle. Reach out to someone, maybe just one person in your family and make a connection. At first, it may be hard. It can’t hurt to try. Maybe there is someone else in your family who is longing for someone to reach out…you can be the one who takes that first step toward healing your family. You can be the one to BREAK THE CYCLE!
I know where I am even before I open my eyes. I hear the rustling of the leaves above my head. I open my eyes and not only see but feel the sun illuminating the tent causing the inside walls to look like the golden shade of honey. There is a certain anticipation as I crawl out from underneath the covers and make my way to the zippered door. What beauty awaits I wonder? The cool air rushes in the through the opening as my eyes adjust to the light. The sun peeks through the needle-like leaves, there is the scent of campfire and coffee in the air, blue-jays screech overhead as the breeze gently blows through the red-barked trees. As I sit in my comfy chair by the campfire, I close my eyes allowing my senses to take in every sound, smell, and feeling. I silently thank God for his magnificent creation. I feel totally at peace. My soul rejuvenates. When is the last time you felt totally at peace? What brings you to the place of rejuvenation? For me, it is camping in the redwood forest, walking beside a waterfall, or sitting on the seashore. Nature is therapy for the soul. God gave us nature for us to enjoy, to fill our senses and clear our minds. If you feel overwhelmed, frustrated, and your mind feels confused, go take a walk somewhere in nature. Go by yourself or with someone you love. Be still and close your eyes. Clear your mind, listen to the beating of your heart and feel your slow rhythmic breaths as you breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. Allow the peace to wash over you like a warm shower. REJUVENATION IS GOOD FOR THE SOUL, MIND AND BODY..CHOSE TO DO IT OFTEN
Most the time when we think of comfort, we think of our physical comfort. A soft pair of socks, a favorite sweatshirt, that squishy chair that you never want to leave or that pair of jeans that fit just right.
As humans, we seek out ways of feeling comfortable physically, but what about our mental and emotional comfort. Is there an area in your life where emotionally and mentally you have become complacent? Have you settled for mediocrity? You tell yourself and others that you are happy being comfortable but deep inside you wonder “Is this all there is?” Are you uncomfortable in your comfort zone? Where there once was passion and challenge, now you are just going through the motions. You know it is time for a change but just don’t know how to begin.
The best way to make a change in your life is one step at a time. Research the steps needed to make the change. Create a plan on taking those steps, even write them down, if needed. Then put the plan in motion, one step at a time.
It may be scary at first. It may take some time but don’t give up. You can live a life of satisfaction but it takes you making those first steps out of the what is familiar and just okay to something that is unfamiliar yet could be the best thing that ever happen.
ARE YOU WILLING TO MISS OUT ON A LIFE OF GREAT TO STAY WITH LIFE OF JUST OKAY
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Many of the things I write about I know first-hand and discouragement is definitely one of them. I am going to be honest, I know that one reason I am in my 50’s and haven’t found success yet is because, in the past, I allowed discouragement to deter me from my dream. I let the difficulty of the process and what other people said become my complacent reality. I am going thorough a process right now that feels like I am spinning my wheels and to add to “the going no where feeling”, I had a person recently tell me that what I am trying to achieve is going to be very difficult. I will admit I felt discouragement creeping in. I lost some momentum because I allowed myself to start believing the words of a stranger.
As I said in my last blog, this is when “surrounding yourself with love” makes such a difference. My husband looked at me and said, ” If it wasn’t hard, everyone would be doing it. ” His words of support along with my own belief that God is greater than any closed door gave me COURAGE to go on.
So I am asking you, is there a dream that you are chasing and chasing and it seems to be getting farther away? Just know you are not alone. Many people start the journey toward a goal, a dream, or the process of starting over, but only a few reach their destination. Take one step at a time. Keep moving. Be a journeyer of perseverance! You never know what can be right around the corner.
If you would like to share a story of a time you persevered to a goal, I would like to hear about it.
“Stand for something or you will fall for anything” Alexander Hamilton
I use to be wishy-washy in standing up for my beliefs. I called it going with the flow. Anyone one else just go along with the beliefs of others and not stand up for what you believe? I did, because I didn’t want to cause conflict in any of my relationships. Over the years, I realized that by not standing up for what I believed, I was compromising who I was by not allowing people to know the real me.
At the core of every person there are core beliefs. These beliefs are either ones that were passed down through your family or ones that you decided were important enough to make a part of who you are. Maybe you believe that all life is precious and should be preserved. Maybe you believe that all men are created equal or maybe you believe that coffee is the best drink ever. No matter what your beliefs are, if you have found value in them…stand up and support your belief. Does this mean you have to shout it from the rooftops or hold up signs in protest. Well.. maybe. The best way to stand up for your beliefs is to LIVE YOUR BELIEFS. It is easier to not be swayed if your beliefs become part of your every day life. Other people may criticize you but stay strong. Others may try to sway you, but have confidence that you are a capable person with the ability to make competent choices about what is right for you.
You will find that you will be respected for who you truly are and not for who everyone thinks you are.
Chose to be around people who encourage you to be the best when you feel the worse
You have decided to start over in some area of your life. You decide you want to do something different or follow your passion. That is great.! At first, you are driven by your desire to succeed. You get up every morning determined to make your passion more and more a part of your life but a long the way you run into obstacles.
The obstacles can be mental, physical or both. Maybe you start losing belief in your dream , believing it’s too hard to achieve or not important enough. You start believing you can’t do it or you stop making time to keep the dream alive. Right then is when what you had before you started the process of change will lead you to success.
Before you begin a change in your life, surround yourself with people who believe in your dream too. People that believe in YOU. People who will not allow you to let your dream die. Every one can experience fatigue when trying to accomplish something, especially when up against obstacles. I experienced it recently myself. The people around you become that soft cushion of encouragement to rely on when you fall. It is so much easier to get up again when you fall on a soft cushion full of love and support than on a hard surface of judgement and discouragement.
So dream that dream, pursue that passion, strive for success but before you do anything … SURROUND YOURSELF WITH LOVE !