Encouraging words and thoughts toward making the rest of your life the best of your life
Author: Diane Patterson
I am 54 years-old and the mother of three grown children. In the last five years, I left a profession I was in for over 20 years, I moved to a new city, re-married, went back to school to discover a new profession, and became a grandma for the first time. I also am pursuing my passion for writing. I am writing a children's picture book and I started my first blog ever.
For years I was afraid of change but I now I embrace it
Have you ever met someone that you instantly felt a connection to? There is something almost magical about connecting mentally and emotionally with another person. Studies show that people who have strong and positive connections with other people are healthier and happier. It is easy to make a connection with people who have similar interests and personalities but what about the people you seem to have nothing in common with.
Building connections comes from positive communication between two people. Both verbal and non-verbal communication is important. Listening to what a person says and watching his or her body language can help you determine the appropriate response that will encourage more conversation and therefore a greater connection.
If you are the type of person who tends to monopolize a conversation, stop yourself and listen to the other person without responding right away. Listening shows you care. Consider a question you can ask the person about what he or she just said? Instead of trying to show how much you know about the subject, think about what you can learn through or about the person.
Don’t be afraid to make a connection with a stranger, you never know how that person can change your life.
As you change your life and try new things, disappointments come with the process. You may not succeed at everything you try. Sometimes the effort required to succeed is more than you are willing to commit to at this time in your life. Sometimes re-evaluation is required. You began changing in a certain way and in the process discover the change is not going to work for you. That is ok, keep trying until you find something that works.
Sometimes disappointment comes from inside you. I recently tried something and failed but it wasn’t because of the situation, it was because of me. I only put the minimal effort required and when it failed, I was disappointed. If I am completely honest, I am not disappointed because the situation did not turn out how I thought it should, I am disappointed in my lack of effort. So where do I go from here?
I am going to start over and try again. This time I am determined to complete the task wholeheartedly. I believe in the value of lists. Writing down every step needed and checking it off as I go. Every day reminding myself why this goal is important to me. Renewing the passion for making my life a life of no regrets.
Disappointment blues got you? Re-evaluate your reason for the change- Remind yourself of the purpose of the change- Renew your passion toward achieving the change
When problems come along, do you crumble emotionally or do you stand up and fight? Maybe not literally fight but you get control of your emotions and look for solutions instead of allowing your emotions to handicap you. If falling apart at life’s changes, disappointments, and failures has become your default mode, you can change. Resilience is built from the inside out. Change your mindset. Resilient people think differently. If a trying situation comes along, resilient people have a optimistic perspective. They know that if a situation can change for the bad it can also change for the good. Sure, they may get angry, frustrated or sad but the key is they don’t stay in the emotion. Your emotions are only as powerful as you allow them to be. The more you stay in the emotion, the more power you give it over you.
Where to start if you want to change your resiliency level? First of all, realize that you are not a bad person because you struggle with being resilient. Like every skill, it takes practice. Talk to someone who is resilient? What characteristics does the person have? Read books. Amazon has some great books on building resiliency.
Once a person gains control in this area, she can live a happier life. The change may come from you having to take action where before you would of allowed the situation to paralyze you. Draw emotional strength from your support system, your family and friends. Do not isolate yourself. Pray and ask God for peace and wisdom. Take one step at a time so it doesn’t feel overwhelming. If waiting is involved, then busy yourself with something that is productive and meaningful while you are waiting.
Be like the tree in the water. Instead of drowning it reached toward it’s life source and stood strong.
Hi , my name is Diane and when I grow up I want to be…..
As a child we all had ideas of what we wanted to be when we grew up. Sometimes along the way though, life’s dreams are interrupted by unexpected realities. That life you pictured yourself living is far from the one you wake up to today. The crazy thing is that many times you don’t know how you got to where you are now. Once you became an adult, life has been a gradual process of survival. Over the years, life experiences have had a way of changing your desires, your ambitions, and even YOU.
This process is called maturity and its a natural part of life. The “You ” you are now is a culmination of your successes and mistakes, your relationships, and your own self-image. How you feel about yourself is the most important aspect of who you are. You shouldn’t beat yourself up for not achieving your dream. If that dream is no longer possible, it’s time to grieve that dream. Recognize your disappointment, cry if you need, and then give yourself time to say good-bye. The most important thing is to never stop dreaming. You are here in this place for a reason. God has a purpose for your life.
Take all those life experiences, even the bad, and build a new dream. Childhood dreams are built on fantasy but adult dreams are built on passion. A passion to do something meaningful, to make a difference, but most of all to fulfill God’s purpose for your life. True fulfillment comes from being who you were created to be.
Grieve a lost dream, find your passion and live a life of fulfillment and you will discover the “YOU” you were meant to be
Click on ” Power of Words” for an inspiring poem about trying to hold onto a broken dream
This week I wanted to write about something dear to my heart. My family. Every year at the end of June my family gets together for a family reunion. Our main meeting spot for the last 40 years has been Leo Carrillo State Beach Campground in California. Some members come in for a week, some just for a few days and then there are those who come in only for the dinner on Saturday, No matter where family come from or how long they stay, the family reunion is always a time we all look forward to. Not just because we get to spend time at a beautiful spot along the coast, but because of the faces we see when we get there. These people are part of our history. A part of who we are. This family is built on love and support which is tried and true. This tradition of connection has deep roots and began way before the summer reunions by a little old lady, in her little old house with her collection of pies.
My great-grandmother believed in family. She knew the importance of keeping a family together so every year she would invite family to her house for Christmas Dinner. I don’t remember those get togethers very well, because I was young, but I heard it was a time for people to visit, play games, and eat pie. I’m sure there was other food but the main attraction were the pies. My great-grandmother would bake pies all year long and freeze them until the Christmas Dinner. Family from far a way would spend the night piled in where ever they could lay their head. Finally , the family became too large to fit into great-grandma’s one bedroom house. Other options were tried but nothing was quite the same. Sadly, great-grandma Pippenger passed away but from her commitment to family a new tradition was birthed, the summer family reunion.
The Pippenger Summer Family Reunion began over 40 years ago from our family’s need to continue to be a part of each other’s lives. I remember as a young child, I would go to sleep snuggled up in my sleeping bag listening to the popping of the campfire and the mummer of the adults talking as I lay in my tent wondering what exciting thing would happen the next day. I remember silly pranks, grunion hunting, days hanging out at the beach, and years later playing “spoons” after making smores by the fire with my own kids. Now as my own children have become adults, I look forward to seeing my grand children experience the same family togetherness.
This weekend we will greet each other with hugs and joy as we look upon the faces of those who are so dear to us. Yet there will be a certain longing as we think about those who are far away and remember the faces of the people who are no longer with us physically; nevertheless , we know they are all with us in spirit.
Although, this year we are at another location, our family knows that it is the people who make the “reunion magic”. Whether we are together in a small one bedroom house or on the coast of somewhere beautiful, the connection of love and support is what binds this family. Great-grandma Pippenger knew the importance of family and I know it is up to my generation to keep it going strong so that years from now another generation will experience the same family love that draws them back year after year.
I have always loved learning. I especially love English. I love how sounds make words, words create content, and content evokes emotion. When I was teenager, a teacher told me that I was a good writer and that I should write a book someday. Those few words stuck with me throughout the rest of my life. I hid them away in my heart like a treasure waiting to be opened. I never wanted to open it because if I did I would be expected to do something with it. So fear held the lid closed.
I feel our lives are like pages we write on everyday. Pages become chapters that contain the details of a story still a work in progress. Where one chapter ends another begins. There are chapters in my life book that I look back on that give me insight into who I am today. I see pages where I was stuck and didn’t want to move on. I am thankful for those times of struggle because I realized I am able to move forward to the next chapter and if I didn’t I would not be who I am today.
So now as I sit here writing my blog, I realize that by doing so I am slowly opening the treasure in my heart. I vow to improve my writing and to be open to new opportunities.
The voice within whispers and sometimes shouts. When it does I feel my heart start to race. I step back and there is where I want to stay. There where it is safe, there where it is comfortable. You see, its the voice inside my head that tells me its too scary out there. It tries to convince me that if I move I will fall.
Then there is another feeling from deep inside that feels more like a strong pulse…it is my heart. The steady beat reminds me that I am alive and I have a purpose. There is a reason I am where I am but I am not meant to stay stagnant. With every step forward the pulse becomes stronger and the voice weaker. If I pause in the midst of doubt, I hear the voice quietly telling to stay still.
I realize that the only way for me to silence the voice in my head is to follow my heart. I might fall but in the end I will accomplish my purpose. I will do something meaningful with this life God has given me, I will live a life of no regrets.