My husband and I spent the day with our grown children , their significant others , and our daughter-in-laws family. I looked at this diverse group of people, in both culture and personality, and I can’t help but smile. I feel so blessed. These people do not need a special occasion to get together. These people really like each other. There is always a greeting hug and a good-bye hug and lots of smiles in-between. There isn’t any fighting, arguing, or putting each other down behind ones back or in the face. I have been told that our family is unique. That thought makes me sad. I know families who haven’t talked for years. What happen to get these people to the point where those they should be the closest to become so far away, even if they live just down the street.? They allow petty differences to tear their family apart. I realize that sometimes there are people who have caused a lot of pain in a family and setting boundaries with those people is necessary. I’m talking about families who over the years grow further and further apart until they are strangers. Over the years, the next generation repeats the cycle of disconnection without even knowing why.
If you are a part of a family where there are no greeting hugs and getting together is like a battlefield, break the cycle. Reach out to someone, maybe just one person in your family and make a connection. At first, it may be hard. It can’t hurt to try. Maybe there is someone else in your family who is longing for someone to reach out…you can be the one who takes that first step toward healing your family. You can be the one to BREAK THE CYCLE!